Sometimes things just don't work out the way that people plan. That's something I had to face when it was obvious that my wife and I were not happy. After going through counseling, we realized that we would be better off if we ended the marriage. That was ten years ago and we are still close friends.
While our divorce was amicable, we both understood the wisdom of hiring our own divorce attorneys. They helped us divide our assets and made sure that each of us had what we needed to get a fresh start. On the few occasions when things did begin to get tense, our lawyers helped us calm down and keep our heads on straight.
Even when both of you agree the marriage is over, get a lawyer. I'll explain why this matters, and what it will mean for you in the long run.